Saying “I Do” : Beauty of Marriage
I have always thought marriage is just a piece of paper and “just a proper excuse to have sex” since growing up. Never really thought of it as something sweet or long lasting because of many divorces and unhappy marriages I’ve witnessed over the years. Each time my parents/sister and her husband have an argument, I find myself even more determined *NOT* to get married in the future.
My mindset started to change when my mom had her first operation, I finally understood the beauty of marriage and having someone who truly loves you,”to have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part.” My father never once complained about how tiring or troublesome things were (even if he did threw his temper at my sis and I occasionally..haha), nor did he leave my mother to suffer alone. He took care of her with such tender loving care, waited patiently for her in the hospital while she had her operation,sat by her quietly as she sleeps,learning something new and cleanse the wound for her everyday, sent her to the doctor for daily checkup and more. Honestly, at that point of time, I really thought if loving someone meant doing all those things without a single grumble, I don’t think I can love someone at all. Daddy Mak is indeed my hero, deep down in my heart.
“Marriage is an adventure, like going to war.” -G. K. Chesterton
Sure enough, my parents are no saint either. They do bicker every now and then but I’ve come to realized that all couples do that and it’s perfectly fine if things are worked out between the two afterwards. The beauty of marriage to me is how two people complement each other with their own gifts and insights instead of trying to be like one another or competing for the same role. While relationship requires devotion, honesty and loyalty, I think marriage is to unite two people at the essential body and heart level (ie communication and intimacy) which is important to maintain a long lasting relationship. Right ?
Till now, I really can’t imagine myself getting married and having a family of my own someday. Even though girls at my age are either planning for their weddings or thinking of having a dozen kids……but oh my, what a scary thought. =\ I want to make sure I really can commit to a marriage before saying “I Do”, that’s for sure.
Guess the boyfriend will have to work harder eh ? =P hur…unless he doesn’t want to marry me *boohoo*…LOL!
“A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished.” -Zsa Zsa Gabor
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July 7th, 2009 at 10:19
That’s why i am your sis..
Dad being the “positive example” while i being the “negative” Muahaha…
Thanks for being so “guai” all these while…^_^
*hugs*.. will ask Gislle to kiss Yee-yee everytime she sees you! Hahah
July 7th, 2009 at 22:25
@my “forever cutest sis” : you just ruin my blog with your comment and revealed the truth behind our family – i have a retarded sister ! *gasp*
hur hur hur. =P
and no asking Giselle to kiss me more..no need -.-
July 8th, 2009 at 01:04
Hi Ingrid,
I think I’ve the same thought with u, for preparing myself to a commitment of “I DO” (both mentally and financially) ^^
And though I’m not meeting Uncle Mak very often in my small ages, I can “feel” that he is really a hero (not only from his “size”, haha). It’s so nice that u have a man to be proud of in your family, and this should comfort u in your marriage, right?
Knew that today (yesterday) is again an important day for ur mum (my beloved antie), all of us are praying… for her to get well soon!! And for u, sis Hilda & uncle Mak, we will always back u up! Support (十卜)!!
Lastly, if u really like to reject the lovely kisses from the cutest Giselle, leave them to me as auntie Mavis is so longing for a big hug from Giselle… ^^
July 8th, 2009 at 01:14
@Mavis hello cousin =) mom is feeling okay ! i’ll update you guys once she’s home…and yes, i guess living in HK makes it even harder to “survive” there after graduation, along with marriage etc. (esp looking at our family, why isn’t anyone getting married ! haha)
anyways, can’t wait to see you and i’m sure lil giselle will be able to talk/play with you guys by then ! =) she’s a very naughty cheeky lil girl..hee
take good care over there ! send my love to the rest of the cheung family too =)