I am quite lucky to have parents who are never pressurizing me to find someone in my life, in fact, they have always been telling me there’s no rush to get married and it’s better not to have kids unless I am able to financially support the entire family or really love kids that much (which fortunately over the years, I have discovered I don’t really want children, if possible) So I guess the only “external pressure” is watching my friends getting married one by one or being in a long term relationship that lasts more than 5 years, and of course nosy acquaintances who will question why am I not in a relationship or asking me to stop studying and settle down asap.
I won’t deny that being single during special occasions and stuff like parties and gatherings makes me feel extra lonely and your mind will start to wonder (a) “What is wrong with me that nobody wants to be with me?” (b) “Why didn’t the (previous) relationship last? was it my fault? Le sigh, gotta be it.” (c) “Maybe they are right, I should just settle down like everyone else. Perhaps just find a random dude who is decent I guess.” – Thank god these thoughts are temporary, else I’ll be in deep trouble right now! haha
“We gotta wait for the real thing, no matter how tough it gets.”
- Ted Mosby, HIMYM S07E11
So to all the well-meaning aunties and uncles and ‘kaypoh’ (nosy in Singlish) friends who take advantage of this festive season to probe into others’ personal lives. There are people who are actually satisfied with how they are living their lives right now without someone in their lives. Sure, we are definitely not getting any younger but hell, says who it is a girl’s “dream/mission” to be settle down, find the love of her life (or not) and have kids before 30 years old? Says who studying too much is too much? (what is too much anyways? learning is never ending!) Says who it is a must during Chinese New Year to ask these awkward questions to annoy the unmarried youngsters like us? Jeez.
With Valentine’s Day coming, I guess most singles out there are having a hard time during the CNY visiting. (Thank God I don’t have to do any! haha) The next time someone asks me “the question”, I’ll reply exactly like in the picture above – “I want a guy like Ted who’ll love me like Marshall and make me laugh like Barney.” Don’t get the reference? Go watch all 8 seasons of How I Met Your Mother before you ask me the question again!