Moving On – Easier Said Than Done ?
Life can still change with the blink of an eye, so does relationships with others. Sometimes when a relationship has been damaged, we learn to deal with them and move on. “Time will heal” they say, but how ? After a term of reading about relationships (one of my module in school talks about such things) and personal experiences, here’s 5 tips that I gathered :
1. It takes time to repair a damaged relationship. You will experience resistance initially but you have to commit yourself to doing what it takes to get the relationship back on track.
2. Share your feelings, listen to each other’s concerns. Sometimes what we end up saying might just be plain outrageous and hurtful – sometimes we don’t even recall saying/doing whatever that was shared. It is hard not to get defensive but resist the urge to act on these feelings and be patient with each other.
3. Apologize and seek for forgiveness, even if you don’t feel like it’s your fault. It removes the barriers between each other and it is important to spend time together and talk about various issues that might affect your future relationship with the person.
4. Don’t let pride get in your way. There’s no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ in a relationship, if you start to justify your actions (which is most likely to happen) – stop and listen.
5. Make a sincere effort to get back on your feet, on your own. If you’re strong enough to face yourself, you can face anything in life =)
Relationships with people are a funny complicated matter, in which I think we all go alil mad sometimes. It’s definitely easier said than done to repair a relationship and there are tons of books out there which act as ’guidebooks’ in a way or another. Who should we listen to ? What’s the right step ?
I guess I chose to observe and learn from my own past experiences – follow your heart.
