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02/10/2013
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The Onslaught on the Singles

I am quite lucky to have parents who are never pressurizing me to find someone in my life, in fact, they have always been telling me there’s no rush to get married and it’s better not to have kids unless I am able to financially support the entire family or really love kids that much (which fortunately over the years, I have discovered I don’t really want children, if possible) So I guess the only “external pressure” is watching my friends getting married one by one or being in a long term relationship that lasts more than 5 years, and of course nosy acquaintances who will question why am I not in a relationship or asking me to stop studying and settle down asap.

I won’t deny that being single during special occasions and stuff like parties and gatherings makes me feel extra lonely and your mind will start to wonder (a) “What is wrong with me that nobody wants to be with me?” (b) “Why didn’t the (previous) relationship last? was it my fault? Le sigh, gotta be it.” (c) “Maybe they are right, I should just settle down like everyone else. Perhaps just find a random dude who is decent I guess.” – Thank god these thoughts are temporary, else I’ll be in deep trouble right now! haha

“We gotta wait for the real thing, no matter how tough it gets.”

- Ted Mosby, HIMYM S07E11

So to all the well-meaning aunties and uncles and ‘kaypoh’ (nosy in Singlish) friends who take advantage of this festive season to probe into others’ personal lives. There are people who are actually satisfied with how they are living their lives right now without someone in their lives. Sure, we are definitely not getting any younger but hell, says who it is a girl’s “dream/mission” to be settle down, find the love of her life (or not) and have kids before 30 years old? Says who studying too much is too much? (what is too much anyways? learning is never ending!) Says who it is a must during Chinese New Year to ask these awkward questions to annoy the unmarried youngsters like us? Jeez.  Struggle

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With Valentine’s Day coming, I guess most singles out there are having a hard time during the CNY visiting. (Thank God I don’t have to do any! haha) The next time someone asks me “the question”, I’ll reply exactly like in the picture above – “I want a guy like Ted who’ll love me like Marshall and make me laugh like Barney.” Don’t get the reference? Go watch all 8 seasons of How I Met Your Mother before you ask me the question again!   Talk to the Hand

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02/08/2013
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Getting Over…

- Marshall, HIMYM S40E2

– Marshall, HIMYM S40E2

While I admit that I really suck at dealing with my own relationships (haha), many of my friends actually do turn to me for advice.  As the Chinese saying goes “当局者迷，旁观者清”, I guess it’s true that it is easier to give advice to others but can’t follow them yourself because you know your own self too well (to not to follow? lol).

So while I am probably one of the most negative person you can find. (I wasn’t known as “emogirl” for nothing! lol), I think I am becoming more clear minded in certain things.  I guess being on my own overseas gave me some me-time to think about life as a whole and the way I view things. Back then, I will probably be really sore (probably still am) over break ups or a bad friendship. Because I would feel like I put in 100% but the result isn’t what I expected (be it my fault or the other person’s or both) I guess most of the time we have high expectations for ourselves or others around us. When these expectations do not meet in reality, they become disappointment.

As much as I try not to believe in horoscope and whatnot, I tend to portray the Scorpio personality extremely well – emotional, stubborn, sensitive..just to name a few. It takes me ages to stop “feeling” and be more logical in many things I  have to deal with in life. I have learnt that to get over something negative, you have to go through the 5 steps of grief no matter what – denial, bargaining, anger, depression and acceptance. Most of the time I get stuck at depression because I focus too much on “what ifs” of the past. Now I guess I came to an enlightenment that you have to accept that a loss will always cost you something, be it emotionally or mentally, or both. At some point, you will realize you need not fight the past and you start to see things more clearly. Acceptance is an evolutionary good because it doesn’t mean that you’re the weaker one – it means freedom. Stop going back to the past. Good things happen, but bad things happen to good people too. I must be as aware of the wrong choices that I make as I am of the right ones, and as accountable for the bad decisions I take as I am for the good ones.

The future is scary. But you can’t just run back to the past because it’s familiar. Yes it’s tempting, but it’s a mistake — Robin, HIMYM S6E24

– Robin, HIMYM S6E24

So hopefully this post helps some of my friends out there as well – those who are stuck at a crossroad, stuck in post-break up etc. Sometimes it takes the wrong(s) to show you what is right and in the meantime, you just have to continue trying to be the right person on your own. Female Fighter  Easier said than done, I know. But have faith, because I am still holding on to mine! Wink

“Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person.” – Gloria Steinem

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10/18/2012
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So, pre-nup?

Was another not-quite funny HIMYM episode, guess the writers had to put in the serious stuff and iron some details out before the good old humor comes back. Though I laughed alil over Lily’s “Snap, Crackle and Pop” (which are actually the cereal Rice Krispies’s mascots by the way!)

So we know from this episode that one of the couples were about to break up after the whole pre-nup incident between Barney and Quinn. I myself feel that pre-nup is yet another thing that humans came up with to complicate life/relationships. I liked how Arthur stopped the arguments between the couples with a relatively good line.

Arthur: “Love is trusting someone enough to tell them what’s really bothering you.”

Though in reality, we often see couples telling white lies or half-truths because most of the time, the excuse/reason is to not hurt the other person. Is knowing too much a bad thing? Perhaps. Is being totally honest a bad thing? Perhaps. Based on my own experiences, I certainly have trust issues in most of my relationships..I guess I’d say it is wiser to keep certain things to yourself than to blabber everything out or what exactly is bothering you because most of the time the other person does not see eye to eye with you and often ends up in a boo-boo or regrets. So how much is good enough? I have no idea too. However, I also feel that if you can’t be entirely honest with the person you are spending the rest of your life with – something is wrong somewhere huh?

So with that, I’ll end with Barney’s awesome quote…and the great closing song to the episode (the team is doing well on picking great songs..hur)

Barney: “I found out I’ll never trust someone enough to get married and that’s fine. My single life is and always will be legen…wait for it.dary!”

Damien Jurado – Museum of Flight

Falling to the ground
I was anxious to be found
You can always go home
To the safety of your cloud

Don’t let go
I need you to hang around
I am so broke
And foolishly in love

I turned around to love revealing
What did I learn, it’s not that easy
When you get burned and go on burning light

Falling into sound
Is a less defeating path
One day we will go home
To the safety of our clouds

Don’t let go
I need you to hang around
I’m so broke
And foolishly in love

I turned around, my life was changing
What did I learn, it’s not that easy
When you get burned and go on burning light

Don’t let go
I need you to hang around
I’m so broke
And foolishly in love

I turned around, my life was changing
What did I learn, it’s not that easy
When you get burned and go on burning light

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10/14/2012
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Lifelong Treasure of Destiny

After a few weeks of missing out proper TV time, it was a refreshing change when I finally catch up on HIMYM S8 to see the change with not having the kids at the start of the premiere I must say, perhaps they have given up on that component. “Farhampton” was certainly lower on the humor but it got me questioning if Barney and Robin will really end up together and we finally see the yellow umbrella lady aka the mother appearing at the end of the episode. A real cliffhanger for the past seven seasons eh? A nice touch to the ending with Band Of Horses’s The Funeral playing at the background too, love it!

I liked especially how Klaus described that Victoria was almost the right girl and not the right girl for him which is why he couldn’t go through with the wedding. It triggers the question whether Ted (or almost every one watching the show, just like me) is in love with the person he’s meant to be with because he will feel it in his heart and whole body. “If you have to think about it, you have not felt it.”

I’d ask the same question as many others would…”How do you know?” Well, like what Klaus said..eventually you will.

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02/12/2012
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Let’s Talk.

In How I Met Your Mother E7E12 “Symphony of Illumination”, Robin discovered that she is unable to have children but she contemplated on telling anyone.

“I knew I could have talked to my friends, but it’s just… I already knew exactly how they would all react.”

I think many of us have felt this way before, feeling the need to tell someone about things going on in your life yet you pause and ask yourself “why bother?” – simply because you know exactly how others would react to it. With the help of technology, our lives are so public that there is no need for a simple sit-down conversation with friends anymore. People know about your relationship status, your life updates etc through social networking platforms, commenting on them directly or simply give you a “+like” as acknowledgement. I can almost imagine how many people would simply click on the “+like” button if there’s one on my blog now, just to agree that they felt this way before.

Anyway, back to the point whereby there’s no point talking to friends anymore…that’s just sad huh? I think it’s a pity that technology has helped us develop such a habit of being an open book instead of talking things out with close friends. Maybe we still do, but you’d realize they fill in the gaps once in awhile in your conversation or assume things based on what you’ve posted online etc. I think I have slowly reduced the information I am posting online and alil more reserved in the things I’m sharing about my personal life. Maybe to some, this defeats the purpose of having a public online presence but I miss the late night chats and long emails from friends. People should hear the story from me personally instead of just reading bits and pieces from a 140 characters update, which simply leads to more unwanted misunderstandings and assumptions.

This is probably why I like being in Beijing more – people are mostly disconnected (or at least not on the same social networking platform). We actually sit down to talk for hours and share our life stories instead of stalking each other on Facebook or twitter. Their responses are more unpredictable and constructive instead of a simple “+like” or another 140 characters respond. What do you think? Are you sharing too much online that when you meet up with your friends, there’s nothing much left to talk about (but simply going through what you guys have already posted online) ?

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03/04/2011
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A Change Of Heart

Couldn’t resist putting this picture of Marshall up – he looks so funny with the mustache! (credit tvfanatic)

In Season 6 Episode 18 of ‘How I Met Your Mother’, we see that Barney starts to have feelings for Nora and worries that there’s something wrong with his heart. It was probably not the best episode, or even possibly being one of the worst episode in HIMYM history, with the lame recurring jokes and weak plot. However, I adore the start of the show with Ted narrating that one never knows what’s going on with one’s heart and it was a heartfelt story about Barney falling in love with Nora – or as how he puts it ‘I want to be confused with you.’

People spend so much time being confused about love. There do not seem to be any rules of what to do when you meet that special someone or even if you have not met him/her. And when you do meet that special someone, you most often choose to deny the feelings as you’re afraid of changes or what is to come. That’s a hard truth because no one wants to admit that they have a ‘problem’ – people tend to ignore such matters and let the confusion continues. Let’s just say that both parties suffer in the end.

Love should not be confusing. Of course, it is bound to have problems that will arise in a relationship, be it just dating or in a marriage. But for it to work, you can’t be confused over 50% of the time as when a relationship becomes too confusing – it is time to take a step back and work things out together or leave it. Unfortunately, there are more cowards out there leaving their relationships instead of working things out together. Broken hearts can be found everywhere – just because one (or both parties) was/were confused at certain points of a relationship. A change of heart, with a whole new meaning?

Honestly, the overwhelming fear that comes with desire to be with someone special resonated deeply with me.  However, the emotional undercurrents are worlds apart. -cues emo background song- (lol) On a lighter note, I thought the subplot with Robin’s new boyfriend ‘Scooby’ was quite amusing, reminded me of others used to tell me that I need a dog in my life and not a boyfriend too ! (I kinda agree with that now. Haha!)

Looking forward to see the finale despite this is the last season of ‘How I Met Your Mother’. Until then, I hope you all find that someone special to be confused with.

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01/20/2011
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Last Words ?

In the last episode of How I Met Your Mother (S06E13), the bad news came unexpectedly. This week (S06E14) is somewhat like an extended version of the episode whereby Marshall’s dad’s funeral took place. I have to say, it was a really bad episode – quite a letdown in fact if it acts as last week’s buildup. It was unfunny humor of how Ted and Barney tried to cheer Marshall up with videos – but  to no avail. (Great keyword search example by the way. haha)

The only thing that saved the show this week was Jason Segel aka Marshall (once again). I liked his little speech on his dad and the significance of last words.

Marshall:

“You guys don’t get it, okay? None of you do. My dad was my hero. And he was my teacher. And he was my best friend. He always came through for me, and now he’s just gone. And what am I left with?

Thanks a lot God, thank you. You took my father. The greatest man that I have ever known, and you whipped him off this Earth, way too young. And he’ll never get to meet our kids, Lily. But we’ve got this voicemail. Thank you so much for the voicemail, it’s a great comfort. Because whenever I’m starting to feel lonely, or sad, or maybe a little bit cheated, at least I’ve got the sound of his pocket to console me. How is this fair? You’ve got an entire human life, and it just ends for no reason. And what are we left with?“

I really felt for him at that moment because I share a strong bond with my Dad personally – and every day I fear that this would happen to me. What would his last word to me be ? Or in any case, what if I am the one who leave the world first ? What would my last word be? What do you want others to remember before you take your last breath? Ok, morbid moment there.

The end of the show foreshadows the next episode is probably having Barney to meet his real father. Might just be another emotional episode…gosh, now I really wish the show can just focus on finding Ted’s wife and save me the tear jerking scenes.

It’s been awhile since I last blogged but there’s just so much to do lately since school has started for almost a month now! Thanks for understanding and please continue reading while I pick up my blogging momentum again… like what Marshall said, “I really, really, love you guys…..Now I’m gonna go drop a deuce.”

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01/04/2011
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HIMYM : Bad News

**mild spoilers**

This week’s How I Met Your Mother (S06E13 ‘Bad News’ ) was interesting – who would have thought this comedy can get fans tearing up at the end of the show ! I almost thought ‘Bad News’ referred to the couple’s pregnancy results but surprise!  The ending was a gloomy scene that came as a surprise to most of the viewers, it was a loss that everyone would feel for. I think this episode was one of Jason Segel (Marshall)’s best performance.

Marshall: “We’ve had unprotected sex 203 times in the past four months. Obviously, I’m the problem.”
Barney: “Problem? That’s the dream. I’d give my first born to not be able to have children.“

Finally we see Barney’s doppleganger ! It was quite a funny scene to see paranoid Lily and Marshall refusing to believe that the fertility specialist doppleganger isn’t Barney himself. Though I must say the second visit to ‘Dr. Stangel’ the doppleganger, Barney really got Marshall and many of us fooled when he impersonated him (the doctor) ! NPH can really pull off the beard and dark hair eh ? I love how Lily and Marshall high-fived over the number of times they tried to conceive and places they have been doing it (coughs..ideas ? haha) The part where Marshall’s parents were interrupting his ‘hair drying’ moment was really funny too.

Marshall: “I’ll give my dad a call after Dr. Stengal gives me the thumbs up.”
Ted: “Ew! He has to do that?“

Robin’s subplot wasn’t too interesting but I love her thumb-down moments. Enjoyed the short snippets of her embarrassing moments, Robin Sparkles rocks! I thought it was sweet of Ted to pay a visit to Sandy Rivers’s house as well but the main plot and the distracting countdown stole the attention. I honestly thought that the countdown was for a special ‘New Year’ gimmick but apparently it’s meant for counting down to the sad ending. I would have thought that it was rather attention-seeking since I noticed the numbers right from the start but I actually enjoyed looking out of the next number during the show. In conclusion,I appreciate the sudden seriousness in the comedy and Jason Segel’s brilliant acting. Oh, not forgetting Ted’s “Sensory Deprivator 5000″ from S02E14 ‘Monday Night Football’ !

If you missed the countdown in the show, here’s a nice HIMYM countdown recap I found !

So how did you find this episode ?  I’m looking forward to the lasertag game that Barney is bugging everyone about !

[UPDATE] You can also view my bff’s review here at The Picture Radio ! That’s right, his blog is full of reviews on TV shows that you might have missed out! So check it out !]

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12/11/2010
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The Mermaid Theory ?

In the 11th episode of ‘How I Met Your Mother’ Season 6, Barney Stinson mentioned about <The Mermaid Theory> whereby girls are seen as manatees until one day when you’ve spent long enough time with her, she’ll transform into a mermaid… and he further eleborated on his blog :

“No matter how hot or unhot a woman is, eventually you will want to sleep with her. The time it takes for this process to occur is the chick’s “Mermaid Clock.” It starts the first time you lay eyes on a chick and stops ticking the instant you want to get your jam on.”

So that’s the theory from the modern guys.

On the other hand, most girls usually follow <Ladder Theory> whereby guys are placed on this “bi-ladderal” system – either the Good Ladder or the Friends Ladder – if guys from the friends ladder try to jump over to the good ladder, and fails – usually they fall into the abyss between these 2 ladders. (which I guarantee most of those cases do fail.) The transition tends to be impossible once the label is permanent.

I had a chat with a male friend of mine who asked if there’s ever a chance for guys who fall under ‘friends zone’ to be seen as a potential mate, and how to avoid being classified into the ‘friends’ zone before any potential feelings develop. As a girl, I admit that I do have these categories in my mind as well…or rather, everyone usually falls into friends zone for me – which makes things really awkward when someone suggests any interest in me romantically.

Then again, I believe that it takes awhile for the ‘Friends’ label to be fixed and never be turned into ‘mermaid’ aka developing interest/wanting a relationship with that person- but that’s just me.

Time for discussion :

1) How do you avoid being classified to the Friends Ladder ?

2) Do you believe in The Mermaid Theory ? If no, why not ?

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10/31/2010
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World’s Coolest Intern…Perhaps ?

I know, the original deadline was 15th October. It took me this long to figure what I wanted to blog about, I’ve seen professional-looking videos, amazingly written resume-like posts, visually pleasing entries…let’s just say, the competition is tough, not just within the social media circle !  Suddenly, the mainstream media was talking all about this internship – even the aunties in the market heard of this ‘S$30,000′ internship. I was really cracking my head to come up with something that would made me stand out among the applicants and yet not too ‘superficial’ or ‘extravagant’…so till the last day (which is today) – I decided to just blog like how I’d normally do – being myself is always the best choice!

No one person is perfect – it is important for employers to find out the strengths that’s required for a position and find someone who is ‘world class’ in these areas despite certain weakness in the less important domains. I may not be the best (knowing there are many out there who might be better than me academically or with pages long resume..hur) but I do think I’m up for this challenge and it will not be just a job but self-discovering learning experience for me (like how my other internships have been).

Just earlier this year, I was thinking of my future career path and looking for new learning experience and this opportunity came along! Not only is the job scope attractive (Events+Social Media = What more can I ask for!) and a brand new industry (Working in a bank is like the ultimate dream for most SMU students but reality check : No non-finance/business student will apply for a banking job with a <50% success rate) AND perfect timing since I’m graduating next April !

Instead of pleading or hard-selling myself like many others (since you can pretty much figure out from my blog/facebook/tweets/social media platforms/getting to know me better when we do meet..lol), I will just share my views on #WorldCoolestIntern. Needless to say this is an amplifying marketing tactic and it has certainly maximize conversations in social ecospheres. Not only there’s a product tie-in (the iPhone app ‘Breeze‘ ), the excitement of this competition was buzz worthy (be it negative or positive) and increased traffic, not only in terms of this campaign alone I’m sure. In HR perspective, I think by searching for someone in the blogosophere allowed the team to see one’s personality and passion as well – it’s not always about popularity (though of course it still plays a part, aka traffic). Honestly six months is not enough to accomplish anything concrete but that being said, the intern will definitely learn from the guidance he/she would receive.

On a side note that is unrelated to my application, I think Social Media is a wonderful platform and the next big thing for HR executives to pay attention to. Look at DIGG‘s case and you’ll understand why.  Such a warm ‘buzzy’ feeling I get reading those tweets to help those in need ! =)

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Cutting the long story short, 5 reasons why I think I deserve a chance to be with the Breeze Team :

I.AM.MYY and IAM….

1. Serious Fun : Always a balance between having fun and being serious at work

2. Leader-Follower : I love being in a team but I am self-driven to achieve my goals

3. Conventionally Quirky : I believe in rules but there’ll always be twists in life to make things more exciting

4. Illogically logical : There’s no such thing as impossible – we humans make illogical decisions and claim we’re logical anyways!

5. ‘Barney Stinson’ : Ordinarily AWESOME…and challenge accepted ! *Ok, I admit I’m a TV junkie too*

Can’t end the post without featuring a song…and secretly wishing the team will start singing Fefe Dobson’s ‘I Want you’

“Now let me say it again,I want you…I’m gonna gonna make you mine!“

so “just see what we could be“… and fingers crossed ? Wink

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