In How I Met Your Mother E7E12 “Symphony of Illumination”, Robin discovered that she is unable to have children but she contemplated on telling anyone.
“I knew I could have talked to my friends, but it’s just… I already knew exactly how they would all react.”
I think many of us have felt this way before, feeling the need to tell someone about things going on in your life yet you pause and ask yourself “why bother?” – simply because you know exactly how others would react to it. With the help of technology, our lives are so public that there is no need for a simple sit-down conversation with friends anymore. People know about your relationship status, your life updates etc through social networking platforms, commenting on them directly or simply give you a “+like” as acknowledgement. I can almost imagine how many people would simply click on the “+like” button if there’s one on my blog now, just to agree that they felt this way before.
Anyway, back to the point whereby there’s no point talking to friends anymore…that’s just sad huh? I think it’s a pity that technology has helped us develop such a habit of being an open book instead of talking things out with close friends. Maybe we still do, but you’d realize they fill in the gaps once in awhile in your conversation or assume things based on what you’ve posted online etc. I think I have slowly reduced the information I am posting online and alil more reserved in the things I’m sharing about my personal life. Maybe to some, this defeats the purpose of having a public online presence but I miss the late night chats and long emails from friends. People should hear the story from me personally instead of just reading bits and pieces from a 140 characters update, which simply leads to more unwanted misunderstandings and assumptions.
This is probably why I like being in Beijing more – people are mostly disconnected (or at least not on the same social networking platform). We actually sit down to talk for hours and share our life stories instead of stalking each other on Facebook or twitter. Their responses are more unpredictable and constructive instead of a simple “+like” or another 140 characters respond. What do you think? Are you sharing too much online that when you meet up with your friends, there’s nothing much left to talk about (but simply going through what you guys have already posted online) ?